WHAT WILL YOU CREATE? 💎


They say there’s something for everyone in NYC. But despite the seemingly endless array of possibilities, there are still empty spaces that not everyone else may spot.

In a city that has almost everything, what do you do when you notice one?

You fill it. You bring into this world whatever you feel is missing. You can create the change that you yearn for.

Why me? You may ask. Why not you? You’re just as capable and resilient as anyone else. Maybe more. (After all, you’re a New Yorker). 

A year ago, we asked ourselves the same questions. A year later, we’re proud to share our anniversary issue with you.

Whether you’ve just subscribed or have been following us since our debut, thank you for being a part of our community. 

Whatever struggles you’re facing or dreams you’re dreaming, we’ll continue to be here to listen, guide, and cheer you on, every single step of the way. ❤️

All our love, 
Your 20s to be team

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GETTING REAL

“Even before I was 15, I remember men whispering at me and my friends in cars. I didn’t feel like there was a good way to respond to it. I felt silenced by these comments — I’d just keep walking. As a freshman in college, I was given an assignment to immerse myself in something and then document it in on social media. The project, Catcalls of NYC, gave me the opportunity to respond to catcalling in a different way.”
Sophie, 22, on learning how to be unapologetic and tackling sexual harassment on NYC streets.


“I moved to New York from London in September 2016, where I witnessed how everything in America was changing politically. At the time I came to the city, I was continuing my acting career and going from one audition to another. It was such a tough process. I finally decided that if it wasn’t going to happen, I was going to make it happen. A combination of being someone new in the city pursuing theater and the political climate ignited a fire in me to write about it.”
Sammi, 29, on using comedy to navigate moving to NYC and showcasing the battle over women’s bodies.


GETTING BY

  • Wanna make a difference with your workout? Next week is UNGA and NYC’s inaugural “Walk the Talk,” a celebration of universal health care and well-being. Join the walk/run to raise awareness! 🏃
  • NYC meals are $$$$… even when you’re cooking for yourself. Here are our go-to tips for stretching your grocery budget.
  • Our least favorite kind of politics? Office politics — especially tricky when you’re one of the youngest around the water cooler. Here are some real-world situations and solutions.
  • ☀️Giveaway Alert ☀️ Ray is a fast-growing mobile app that makes it simple to send digital collective cards. It’s hands-down the easiest way to celebrate someone. We’ve got exclusive Ray swag that’ll brighten your heart. Check out our Insta to enter the giveaway!

BEEN THERE

New York changes fast, so don’t miss out on its treasured traditions just because you’re a local. The 93rd Feast of San Gennaro is happening this week, which means Mulberry Street is jam-packed with meatballs, cannoli, and cheesy tourist traps. Grab a bite and enjoy the madness!

DONE THAT

For this round, you asked: How do you respond to change?

Our favorite piece of advice was from Álvaro, who said,

When facing a dramatic change in your life, try to really look at the positive outcomes. They might not be so obvious at first, but try hard enough and you’ll find something there.
New situations, as scary as they are, can often lead to a lot of personal growth and learning opportunities, merely by being handled with a “can do” attitude — even if you have to fake it til you make it.
Not everything will change all at once, so you can be grounded and find comfort even in the smallest of things that have remained the same. And in case you’re really freaking out, just take a breath and live one day at a time. Soon the changes will become everyday life.

Got a burning question to ask? Need some advice? Ask, and we will answer!

Hit us up for questions, comments, or whatever strikes your fancy at hey@20stobe.com.

CAN’T WE JUST TALK? 👋


Let’s dish it out.

Despite the popular saying, talk ain’t cheap. The ability to express yourself and fully communicate your feelings, desires, and boundaries, is one of the most important skills you’ll hone in your 20s. 

From telling your partner what you need, to asking for new opportunities at work, to breaking a difficult truth to a friend, communication is never as easy as we think. Often we get stuck in the gaps between what we say vs. what we mean and what someone else says vs. what we hear. 

There will always be gaps, but the effort you put into bridging them is what counts — whether you’ve been doing it for ages or are just starting today. 

We hear you,
20s to be team

GETTING REAL

“This is the healthiest, most vocal relationship I’ve had, and it definitely started out the hardest simply because we were so worried about doing everything right. Honestly at first, it did not feel natural to constantly be so open and vulnerable. But I think that’s what geared us up to have a very “unnatural” talk about finances.”
Ellie*, 24, on kicking off a healthy financial journey with your partner.


“When I first moved to Venice a year ago for a short-term job opportunity, my partner, Denise*, and I had been dating for almost four years and had just moved in together. Scheduling quality time for each other and learning to be open with our pet peeves helped us when we went long-distance.  We needed to come to a certain medium since we were both living in a shared space. Even if it’s small and random like “stop taking my pillows” or “don’t leave the toothbrush there!”
Eric*, 24,  on going the distance and learning how to live with his partner thousands of miles away.


GETTING BY

  • What do you do when the rent is just too damn high?  Try your luck with NY’s list of affordable housing lotteries in NYC. 
  • Before you hit send on that work email, check out these small changes you can make to your language to sound even more confident! ✍️
  • End of summer often means a change in setting for many NYCers. For those of you moving in with significant others, here are some tips and tricks to be both #CoupleGoals and #RoommateGoals.
  • Practice makes perfect: even space landings require dress rehearsals! Check out Gimlet media’s new podcast: The Habitat, on the fascinating true story of six volunteers picked to live on a fake planet — imitation Mars — to help model the next NASA mission. ☄️

BEEN THERE

New York changes fast, so don’t miss out on its treasured traditions just because you’re a local. The 93rd Feast of San Gennaro is happening this week, which means Mulberry Street is jam-packed with meatballs, cannoli, and cheesy tourist traps. Grab a bite and enjoy the madness!

DONE THAT

For this round, you asked: What’s the best money you’ve spent this summer? 

Ali tells us,

Investing in my education and completing an online certification course from Cornell.

Got a burning question to ask? Need some advice? Ask, and we will answer!

Hit us up for questions, comments, or whatever strikes your fancy at hey@20stobe.com.

WHAT ARE YOU STIRRING UP? 😜


Summer is a great time for easy living — sun in your face, wind in your hair, nights that go on forever. But it’s an even better time to stir up some trouble. 😉

You heard us right. There’s no better time to make a splash and be unapologetically you. 

Childhood. High School. College. Our pasts have already been plotted out. But your 20s — your future — can be anything you want it to be. Throw out the manual because no one knows what’s best for you except you. 

Do what you want. Wear what you want. See whoever you want. Know your truth and speak it.

We’ve all been living with rules. Some help keep us in check and others only hold us back. You know which ones are which. 

It’s time to break them. 

Rebelling with you,
Your 20s to be team

GETTING REAL

“I was so caught up in it being my first serious relationship, and having that person I could always turn to. It was hard to look back after the fact and realize that I was unhappy, and that I wasn’t myself. But this realization is the main reason why I moved on. Now I feel more secure in myself and my identity than ever before.”
Kaitlin, 23, on a sudden breakup that worked out for the best.


“In college, my grandfather, cautioned me to ‘stay away from fancy troubles.’ But, living in London and traveling across Europe, I knew I needed just the right amount of trouble. It was ultimately in my travels that as a graphic designer I was inspired to see my designs come to life and eventually create sunglasses that truly embody the sense of possibility we all desire.”
Gabby, 25, on taking a leap of faith on her dreams.


GETTING BY

  • It’s humid. It’s sticky. Despite the sweat, what your skin needs post-sun is rehydration. Here’s a simple and refreshing DIY mask that cools you down and works wonders.
  • Living a hot girl summer? Whether you’re busy with flings or all bae-ed up, it’s first and foremost about loving yourself. “You can’t pour tea from an empty pot.” Listen to Modern Love, an NPR NYT Podcast to get inspired to love your partners, friends, families, pets and most importantly —  you.
  • Summer apartment hunting? There have been major reforms to rent-stabilization laws in NYC earlier this year. Get the scoop on how you can take advantage and save some $$. 
  • ☀️ Free stuff alert ☀️ We’re giving away a gorgeous pair of Fancy Troubles sunglasses this week — check out our Instagram to enter the giveaway!

BEEN THERE

Live out classic adventures and take advantage of these glorious summer evenings with NYC’s many outdoor movie screenings! From Casablanca to Moana, Anchorman to A Star is Born, and so much more in between, there’s something for everyone. Best of all, most are free — perfect for a casual, spontaneous summer date!

DONE THAT

For this round, our international students have asked: “when should we start thinking about post-graduation plans? How likely are we able to stay in the States?”

Vivian, a recent NYU grad tells us,

OPT is a complicated process and it can be anxiety inducing. Remember you have time and different potions. The NYU OPT page has a great calculator that gives you a timeline for when you should consider initiating the process. Also, remember your rights: you are not obligated to answer any question about your income, nationality, or citizenship.

Got a burning question to ask? Need some advice? Ask, and we will answer!

Hit us up for questions, comments, or whatever strikes your fancy at hey@20stobe.com.

READY TO GO AGAIN?


When life gives you lemons…. In New York, in our first decade of adulthood, life rarely goes easy on us. Between career setbacks, surprise breakups, and money issues, sometimes the only certain thing is…failure.

When it all tumbles down, the only way forward is to get back up again and again, stronger and wiser each time. Being able to learn and adapt — to thrive in spite of hardship — is your greatest strength in this tumultuous city and the greatest gift your 20s self can give to the future you.

So raise your glass of lemonade, because we’re sure you’ve already squeezed some out of your past failures, and cheers with us.

Up and at ‘em,
Your 20s to be team

GETTING REAL

“Fake News Writer is a YouTube series about a recent college grad, Ethan, who moves to LA in the hopes of being a screenwriter — but the only job he can find is writing Pro-Trump conservative propaganda for a fake news website. I wrote this series based on my own experience moving to LA after graduating in screenwriting. One day as I was searching on Indeed, I found a posting for a political news writer where you needed to write with whatever biases the company gave you.”
Eric, 26, on navigating reality as an aspiring screenwriter.


“When I graduated three years ago, I think I just didn’t know what kind of roles I really wanted as my first steps. It was definitely a hard summer… throughout college, I always made sure that I was working very hard to be at the top no matter what I was doing, whether it was in student activities or at an internship. To be hit with endless rejections throughout summer right after graduation was just a huge reality check”
Carolynn, 24, on her post-grad career setbacks and comebacks.


GETTING BY

  • You’re ready for a summer getaway but your bank account isn’t budging? Here are six affordable ways you can escape from the subway humidity for a weekend. 
  • Career changes are stressful, but it’s never too early — or late —to think about disrupting your current flow. Check out the HBR podcast on ways to take your next big leap. 
  • While adapting to thrive, it’s important to not lose sight of your core values. This TED Talk helps us understand the why behind our actions.
  • What’s the hottest spot to be — and Instagram — this summer? Find it on FOMOFeed! While you’re at it, follow us on Instagram to stay in the loop. 

BEEN THERE

We all need to get away sometimes, but planning a whole trip out of the city takes some work! Have a quick summer getaway at Governors Island and enjoy the perfect mix of greenery and city views. The ferry is just $3!

DONE THAT

For this round, our international students have asked: What’s your process for re-grouping after a setback?” 

Our favorite piece of advice was from Nick, who said, 

After a setback, I carve out some time to process. When our plans go awry we can feel a range of emotions, and I think there is deep learning and potential if we can fully feel our feelings and be inquisitive about why this particular plan that didn’t work out is so important to us. Without this step, the feelings can linger and fester and we may experience the same setback again and again.

I start by regulating my breath with a breathing app that tells me when to breathe in and out. This gives me a state of strategic calm to observe what happened, why it was important, and how I can move forward with greater clarity and purpose.

Setbacks can be frustrating because they are turbulent, but that can be a blessing — it can shake us up and make sure we are being intentional about our lives. Beautiful questions emerge from setbacks: why do I care about this? What value does this trajectory bring to me or others? Was this path intrinsically motivated or am I doing this for someone else?

Got a burning question to ask? Need some advice? Ask, and we will answer!

Hit us up for questions, comments, or whatever strikes your fancy at hey@20stobe.com.

CAN YOU KEEP UP? ⚡


Big summer energy. Say it with us, because that’s the kind of summer we’re all aiming for. 

With the million fun things we want to RSVP to (al fresco brunches, rooftop parties), it’s the perfect time to think about what draws out your prime energy.

What is it you do to recharge yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually that allows you to be the best version of yourself? More importantly, what in your life is most deserving of your best self and prime energy? 

Your time and attention is limited, so don’t be afraid to be selfish this summer. 😉

Putting ourselves first,
Your 20s to be team 

GETTING REAL

“For six years, I’ve suffered from living with the confines of an anorexic and alcoholic mind. The spiritual program of recovery has helped me prioritize in loving myself. New York is an over-stimulating city, but I’m learning how to surrender to the thoughts of being a perfectionist or comparison. Being in service of love has grounded me and constantly reminds me to come back to my truest self.”
Lolly*, 22, on learning how to lean closer and closer to her authentic self.


“Last year, I found myself crying over missing out on the cherry blossoms at the Botanic Garden. By the time I found the opportunity to go, they weren’t blooming anymore. It seemed silly, but it wasn’t about the flowers — it was my whole relationship with New York City.”
Tina, 23, on the delights and anxieties of life in the Big Apple.


GETTING BY

  • Working hard? Work smart instead. Here are five habits to help you get through your to-do lists faster, so you have more time and energy for rooftop season.
  • Adulting means taking good care of yourself — both mind and body. We know the drill for broken bones and colds, but how do you treat emotional trauma? One of our favorite Ted Talks teaches you how to practice “emotional first aid.”
  • Mental health is nuanced, complex, and so, so impactful to your life. We’ve got a handy graphic to evaluate your mental state through a holistic lens.
  • Feeling tired? To live — and thrive — in this city, you need every ounce of energy you can muster. Make sure you’re not giving your energy away. Here’s why you should be selfish with your time and mental space.

BEEN THERE

Need a de-stressor for your (axe)istential crisis? Or an (axe)cellent suggestion for your next friend group or work outing? Kick Axe, located in Brooklyn, is our go-to.

DONE THAT

For this round, you’ve asked: “How do you maintain work-life balance?”

Our favorite piece of advice was from Grace, who said, 

I’m a freelancer, so I rarely know my full schedule and things pop up last minute all the time, which makes it hard to find a balance. But on the days when I know I have no projects, I make sure to fully dedicate the time to myself, catch up on laundry, and maybe sneak in a nice face mask.

The upside of being a freelancer is that I’m able to figure out which types of clients I enjoy working with. I’m actually working on not being as speedy to accept — to really evaluate if I want to accept a project and negotiate to my fullest, because when you dedicate your time at work to something, you want to make sure it’s something that can help you build for that next step. Knowing that makes it easier to focus and do your best.

I also keep in mind that work is just a part of life, not my whole life. It’s not my full identity and I always remind myself of that when I’m feeling down or stressed. It’s important to do and the mental separation lets me actually enjoy what I’m working for!

Got a burning question to ask? Need some advice? Ask, and we will answer!

Hit us up for questions, comments, or whatever strikes your fancy at hey@20stobe.com.

WHEN WILL MY REFLECTION SHOW WHO I AM INSIDE?


It’s finally spring, y’all!

Whether you’re doing some spring cleaning or day drinking (or both) we’re all embracing the changing season. In a city like New York, change is the only constant. We’re trendsetters living in a melting pot of influences. The one thing that never goes out of style is your sense of self, but even our identities are ever-evolving. Self-love and acknowledging that we’re all works-in-progress go hand in hand.

In this season of rebirth, let’s strip away the layers of winter and step into the new season with a renewed sense of who we are — and who we want to be.

WIP with you,
Your 20s to be team

GETTING REAL

“Storytelling was my escape, especially growing up in a harsh environment in Houston, Texas. I lost my father when I was 5 years old, but I wasn’t able to properly mourn for him until I was an adult and started writing and performing a one man autobiographical show in his honor. Through this journey, I realized I was no longer ashamed of my background and I could be unapologetically black and authentic. I was finally leading not with my best self, but my whole self. I hope now to add to the artists from diverse backgrounds who are painting new pictures.”
Robert, 25, on finding his identity through storytelling.


“Growing up in China, I never realized the importance of race and ethnicity. I had never categorized myself as Asian before the US, because it was so instinctual. It was a default. After starting college in NYC, I met a lot of hyphenate Asians who struggle to learn about where they come from. Representation matters so much because you don’t know who you are until you see someone who looks like you. You need a lighthouse to guide you to move forward.”
Kally, 20, on building a stage for representation.


GETTING BY

  • Burnout: it’s a chronic millennial condition and presents differently for everyone. Here’s how to think about the experience through an intersectional lens.
  • Being a good ally means continuously educating yourself. Find out how to be a better ally in the workplace and beyond.  🤝
  • Impostor syndrome in NYC is a real thing — everyone seems like they have their shit together, but that’s not always true. We’ve found a few ways to combat it without feeling alone.
  • Food plays such an important role in identity since it can define culture. Here’s an awesome guide of delicious spots to eat in NYC that reflects our melting pot. 😋

BEEN THERE

In NYC, we all come from different backgrounds — race, ethnicity, religion, class, sex. This month, we’re exploring how to juggle our different identities.

DONE THAT

For this round, you’ve asked: “How do you navigate a misunderstood identity?”

Our favorite piece of advice was from Afraz, who said,

Navigating a misunderstood identity, especially as minority within society, is oftentimes a process of engaging with conflicting thoughts and emotions. There is a part of you that feels empowered by and confident in your identity because of how integral it is to your existence and another part of you that is struggling to understand all the misinformation and negativity that is ultimately delegitimizing what you know to be true for yourself.

For me, I found myself addressing this internal conflict by:
1. Seeking support and guidance from a mentor, who has traveled down a similar path carrying the identity(ies) I held close;
2. Embracing my role as an educator and fully living out my truths.

Through every moment that you are your whole self, whether it is around coworkers and friends or in front of thousands, you are slowly and surely dismantling the systems that have sought to define you as “other.”

Got a burning question to ask? Need some advice? Ask, and we will answer!

Hit us up for questions, comments, or whatever strikes your fancy at hey@20stobe.com.

BALLIN’ ON A BUDGET? 💸


Real talk. Money. We all love spending it, especially in NYC. The flip side of money though? Taxes, compensation discussions, and personal finances…can we pass on that?

Let’s not. Because even though managing your finances isn’t fun or sexy, it’s the foundation on which you can build the fun and sexy.

With the right mindset, habits, and patience, we can #LiveOurBestLives, even in our 20s. We’re all about reaching for the stars and owning our power, so join us in securing the bag and maximizing your dolla dolla bills!

In it together,
20s to be team
P.S. Slide into our DMs or just follow us on Insta 😉 

GETTING REAL

“I stumbled upon a role in consulting [that] was the catalyst for how my relationship with money would change — especially as I stepped into the adult world and became financially independent. You have to understand where you are financially. You have to make it easy for yourself to achieve both your short-term goals while contributing to your long-term goals, and make it all automated.”
Victoria, 25, on how to make the most of your paycheck.


“I purchased an apartment in NYC when I was 23 years old. We spend so much on rent — yet it doesn’t go toward anything in the future for yourself. The money just goes for that month. When you pay a mortgage, it is a healthy debt since you’re paying for an asset and building a good credit. The biggest lesson I’ve learned from purchasing a property is how to be an advocate for myself.”
Alex, 25, on getting real with real estate.


GETTING BY

  • It’s tax season! Before you know it, the filing deadline will be here. Don’t procrastinate — we’ve found the ultimate guide on how to file.  🗄️
  • When can I retire? It’s never too early to track your financial progress. You can calculate your expected retirement age here.
  • Feeling tired, stressed, anxious? We hear you. But therapy’s $$$ when you’ve got other bills to pay, so we found a free app with simple mental exercises to help you cope.
  • End your credit card confusion now — NPR’s Life Kit podcast shares the latest hacks to get the most out of your spending.

BEEN THERE

Spring is just around the corner. Find out how we are rejuvenating our lives with the new season. 

DONE THAT

For this round, you’ve asked: “How do you manage up to your boss and still maintain a productive working relationship?”

Our favorite piece of advice was from Ama, who said, 

Establishing trust between yourself and your manager is important to a productive relationship. I try my best to consistently turn in thoughtful work while being transparent (i.e., if I make a mistake, I speak up about it before someone else does).

In my experience, if a manager trusts my work and work ethic, I have more leverage to negotiate my responsibilities and subsequently take on tasks that are more meaningful to me. It also helps to regularly check in with your manager so nothing’s a surprise when it comes to your official reviews. That said, it’s not just about your manager trusting YOU; your manager should also earn your trust.

Got a burning question to ask? Need some advice? Ask, and we will answer!

Hit us up for questions, comments, or whatever strikes your fancy at hey@20stobe.com.

ARE YOU THERE, CUPID? IT’S ME… 💘


Roses are red, violets are blue,
Consumerism isn’t yet dead,
Let’s enjoy this made-up holiday too!

Whether you’re “Crazy In Love” or “Feeling Myself,” Valentine’s Day has got us in the mood to wear our hearts on our sleeves and spread the joy. Grab a loved one and let them know how you feel loud and proud on the 14th — even if it’s a measly “You’re alright,” to your kid brother in between wedgies and swirlies.

Sending x’s and o’s always,
20s to be team

GETTING REAL

“I didn’t get a proposal and I didn’t get an engagement ring. It wasn’t very climactic – we just decided to. We have a good time together, even if we’re not really doing anything. I can always count on him in a way that I can’t with anyone else. The way some people talk about monogamy and marriage as belonging to someone is a restricting thing. I think it’s a very comforting thing to have someone that at the end of the day can be there for you, no matter what. He was my first relationship and will hopefully be the last.”
Tina, 23, on getting married young.


“Our breakup felt like a slow slap in the face. It wasn’t abrupt because I was still hung up on her, and I was so concerned about ending it the right way. We tried to be friends after – I just assumed it would be easy to jump right back into it since she was my best friend before we got together, but there was a lot of sadness leaving behind a deep connection. It felt like my world was ending and there was no one at the other end of the phone to comfort me through the pain.”
Noman, 23, on a recent breakup through his lens.


GETTING BY

  • Congrats, they like you too and now you’re going on a (hopefully) hot date. Here are some cool spots that say “I want to get to know you” without breaking the bank. 🥂
  • All great loves begin with self love. Don’t forget to show some appreciation for the #1 in your life with these little reminders.
  • It’s hard enough managing finances on your own, but when you’ve got to factor your partner into the equation? Here’s an inside look into an NYC couple who make it work despite making very different salaries.
  • In the chaos of the city, it can be hard to keep in touch with friends and family. Spread some love this week by sending a gratitude note or carrying out a random act of kindness. 🤗

BEEN THERE

Give your biggest organ some love. Surprise, it’s not your heart, it’s your skin! Here are our best tips for skin that gives off tropical getaway vibes even when it’s snowing outside.

DONE THAT

For this round, you’ve asked: “I see a lot of people in relationship and I’m single and dating but can’t help but feel that the grass is greener. How do I embrace my current situation?”

Our favorite piece of advice was from Julia, who said, 

By looking at it as the blessing it is, instead of a curse. NYC gives you an unrivaled number of choices when it comes to both dates and date activities. Underground film with a creative? Cocktails with a banker? Day rave with an account exec? The most important part of dating is knowing what you want. This is your playground to figure that out and even more importantly, the best place to live your single life so that once you know who you are and what you want, you’ll have the tools to build a beautiful relationship with the right person.

Got a burning question to ask? Need some advice? Ask, and we will answer!

Hit us up for questions, comments, or whatever strikes your fancy at hey@20stobe.com.

ARE YOU AWAY FROM “HOME”? 🏠


One of the biggest things New Yorkers have in common is that most of us are not from New York. We come from all around the world, bringing with us foods, customs, fabrics and traditions that build up the foundation of what makes this city special.

We also bring with us a collective sense of missing home. Whether we’re a plane ride, visa or vacation time away from our families, homesickness strikes at the most unlikely of times.

Take comfort in the fact that we are not alone in our loneliness, and that being an insider in a city of nearly 9 million means we can lean on each other in times of hardship. We’re just as strong as the families we choose, or at least until the next time we make it home.

Much love,
Your 20s to be family
P.S. Don’t forget to call your mom — she’ll appreciate it.

GETTING REAL

“I haven’t been home for Chinese New Year since 2012 — years missed of exchanging four-worded blessings to extended family members, pigging out on dishes prepared in multiples of eight, and trekking to the temple at midnight to light incense at the temple. It has never worked out that I had the days off to fly home for a celebration so close to my heart. It doesn’t help that in a white American environment, the holiday I looked forward to every year seemed to hold as much bearing as National Cheese Day, while everyone else got designated days off for Easter, Rosh Hashanah, and Christmas.”
Jojo, 24, on coming home for the holidays for the first time in six years.


“I thought I was going back to California immediately after graduation, but I was always told that we go to college just to get a job, and it felt like a waste to have worked so hard toward building a career here to just leave the city right after senior year. Ultimately, my network and drive to make it in New York convinced me to stay. I ended up going into the tech industry, which allowed me to keep up with my friends and family still living in the Bay Area all while never having to give up living in New York — all it took was hard work and being vocal about the role I wanted.”
Carolynn, 24, on sticking to her roots without giving up her New York City life.


GETTING BY

  • Home is where the heart is, but for many New Yorkers, that’s not quite New York. Here are our favorite tricks on how to make the city a bit more homey. 
  • Is the cost of your commute taking a toll? This calculator shows how much money you can save if you take advantage of your employer’s pre-tax benefit.
  • We’re Marie Kondo-ing the hell out of our apartments this January, but those of you who are questioning the method and its implications to our very real lives aren’t alone.
  • There is a problem at work — we’ve found some helpful advice on how to break the situation to your manager. 

BEEN THERE

How do you cope with homesickness? We’re sharing ways we’ve felt closer to home in our moments of weakness, whether we’re from abroad or a short train ride away.

DONE THAT

For this round, you’ve asked: “How do you cancel plans if you really can’t afford to be going out yet again?”

Our favorite, and most relatable response, was from Samira, who said,

To be absolutely honest, I would cancel dinner plans so often to the point where I felt like I needed a doctor’s note. I never felt comfortable talking about money. Instead of outright canceling, I suggest pot luck dinners, which helps me bond with my friends without the price tag.

Got a burning question to ask? Need some advice? Ask, and we will answer!

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HOW ARE THOSE RESOLUTIONS STICKING FOR YA? ✔️


It’s a weird time of year. Holiday celebrations are history and the next long weekend is just slightly out of reach. Here we are, in 20-degree weather, constantly battling these New Year’s resolutions we’ve set for ourselves and our desire to curl up into a ball and hibernate for the rest of winter.

We’ve positioned ourselves for success in 2019 and now it’s up to us to follow through. Pat yourself on the back if you’ve made it past National Quitter’s Day (that was January 12th, by the way!) and forgive yourself if you haven’t been consistent. As long as you’re trying, you’re a step ahead of who you were yesterday.

Here’s to making it stick!
Your 20s to be  team

GETTING REAL

“Applying to grad school was so emotionally draining. I was constantly dealing with rejection and looking for motivation to start the whole process over. Some of my application essays were asking a lot from me. “How have the influences in your life shaped you? How will you pursue your life’s calling?” How could I answer that when I was still figuring out what I really wanted to do? When I stopped trying to craft a masterpiece and put my most authentic self to paper, I came to find the answer of who I was and what I wanted in life.”
Hediya, 23, on finding herself in her grad school applications.


“Learning Persian opened up a window to my spirituality. Before this summer, I lacked any spirituality until I started taking Persian lessons, reading Persian articles and studying Persian-based literature. Al-Ghazi (Abu al-Ghazi Bahadur, 1603-1663, a military ruler and scholar) wrote about attaining connection with the divine, which made me more curious about the big questions in life. However, finding my spirituality is helping me learn there are powers beyond me guiding my life.”
Ali, 22, on searching for a job and finding himself and his people along the way.


GETTING BY

  • For those who have trouble keeping up with their New Year’s resolutions (we’re guilty too ), here are ways to keep yourself accountable.
  • Annual merit time is slowly creeping up and we’ve got some tips on how to confidently ask for that raise.
  • New year, new grind? Job interviews can be stressful, but Lilly Singh makes it fun! Check this video out if you need a good laugh or while learning new skills to get that next job.
  • Is grad school for you? Use this decision flow chart to figure out if “student” is a title you wouldn’t mind trying on again.  🤔

BEEN THERE

Let’s face it — January sucks. Sans holiday festivities, we’re turning to our current favorite shows for a little pick-me-up. Check out which “destinations” are our inspiration for when it’s too cold to go outside.

DONE THAT

For this round, we asked ourselves: “If you had to work but didn’t need the money, what would you choose to do?”

Our favorite, and most relatable response, was from Amber, who said,

I would spend my time doing non-profit work that relates to education for incarcerated people, or volunteer for a community center for teenagers with a focus in theater and performing arts.

Got a burning question to ask? Need some advice? Ask, and we will answer!

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